There are many things about which I am perplexed. But today it’s with the seemingly prevalent butt-hurt-defensiveness that pervades most Americans.

When Did Everyone Get So Sensitive – I Am Perplexed

Recently, Karen K. posted a comment about the latest Knitted Cross Stitch Scarf:

My first reaction to “this” particular scarf you’ve made is “meh”.

She then went on to say others I’ve made are stunning and excuse her comment by mentioning she was a New Yorker, and they’re all critics.

First of all, thank you Karen for your feedback. I was really pleased to read it. I also thought the color combination in that particular scarf wasn’t exceptional and I had made many much nicer scarves.

Second, thank you for trying to soften the critique with the two follow-up comments.  But be clear, I don’t consider this comment bad in any way. I highly encourage all feedback.

A friend of mine uses the common criteria for giving feedback:

• Is it true?
• Is it necessary?
• And, is it kind?

I try to do that as well. Especially when the feedback isn’t solicited. But I don’t consider it necessary in this forum.

I open myself up to feedback. I solicit your feedback. Your feedback is always gratefully accepted.

Honestly, I am truly perplexed when feedback is taken as an automatic attack. But that seems to have become the prevailing, expected reaction.  But those rules don’t apply here.  I am very good at assessing if someone is trying to be helpful or hurtful. I am also very good at viewing feedback in an objective way. Your feedback often says a lot about you. Karen’s comment tells me she is honest. It also tells me she understands how her comment might be viewed and tries to soften the impact.

Current Knitting

Interestingly enough, I did have to revert back to a bit of comfort knitting this week. And I went back to another “meh” Knitted Cross Stitch Scarf.

If I ever get back to vending my knitwear, I’m pretty certain this one will sell. I also think the other “meh” scarf will sell too. Suffice it to say, I will have a lot of inventory at my first post-COVID craft show.