I Am Perplexed
There are many things about which I am perplexed. But today it’s with the seemingly prevalent butt-hurt-defensiveness that pervades most Americans.
When Did Everyone Get So Sensitive – I Am Perplexed
Recently, Karen K. posted a comment about the latest Knitted Cross Stitch Scarf:
My first reaction to “this” particular scarf you’ve made is “meh”.
She then went on to say others I’ve made are stunning and excuse her comment by mentioning she was a New Yorker, and they’re all critics.
First of all, thank you Karen for your feedback. I was really pleased to read it. I also thought the color combination in that particular scarf wasn’t exceptional and I had made many much nicer scarves.
Second, thank you for trying to soften the critique with the two follow-up comments. But be clear, I don’t consider this comment bad in any way. I highly encourage all feedback.
A friend of mine uses the common criteria for giving feedback:
- Is it true?
- Is it necessary?
- And, is it kind?
I try to do that as well. Especially when the feedback isn’t solicited. But I don’t consider it necessary in this forum.
I open myself up to feedback. I solicit your feedback. Your feedback is always gratefully accepted.
Honestly, I am truly perplexed when feedback is taken as an automatic attack. But that seems to have become the prevailing, expected reaction. But those rules don’t apply here. I am very good at assessing if someone is trying to be helpful or hurtful. I am also very good at viewing feedback in an objective way. Your feedback often says a lot about you. Karen’s comment tells me she is honest. It also tells me she understands how her comment might be viewed and tries to soften the impact.
Interestingly enough, I did have to revert back to a bit of comfort knitting this week. And I went back to another “meh” Knitted Cross Stitch Scarf.
If I ever get back to vending my knitwear, I’m pretty certain this one will sell. I also think the other “meh” scarf will sell too. Suffice it to say, I will have a lot of inventory at my first post-COVID craft show.