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I Am Perplexed

There are many things about which I am perplexed. But today it’s with the seemingly prevalent butt-hurt-defensiveness that pervades most Americans.

When Did Everyone Get So Sensitive – I Am Perplexed

Recently, Karen K. posted a comment about the latest Knitted Cross Stitch Scarf:

My first reaction to “this” particular scarf you’ve made is “meh”.

Knitted Cross Stitch Scarf 09-23-20 03

She then went on to say others I’ve made are stunning and excuse her comment by mentioning she was a New Yorker, and they’re all critics.

First of all, thank you Karen for your feedback. I was really pleased to read it. I also thought the color combination in that particular scarf wasn’t exceptional and I had made many much nicer scarves.

Second, thank you for trying to soften the critique with the two follow-up comments.  But be clear, I don’t consider this comment bad in any way. I highly encourage all feedback.

A friend of mine uses the common criteria for giving feedback:

  • Is it true?
  • Is it necessary?
  • And, is it kind?

I try to do that as well. Especially when the feedback isn’t solicited. But I don’t consider it necessary in this forum.

I open myself up to feedback. I solicit your feedback. Your feedback is always gratefully accepted.

Honestly, I am truly perplexed when feedback is taken as an automatic attack. But that seems to have become the prevailing, expected reaction.  But those rules don’t apply here.  I am very good at assessing if someone is trying to be helpful or hurtful. I am also very good at viewing feedback in an objective way. Your feedback often says a lot about you. Karen’s comment tells me she is honest. It also tells me she understands how her comment might be viewed and tries to soften the impact.

Current Knitting

Interestingly enough, I did have to revert back to a bit of comfort knitting this week. And I went back to another “meh” Knitted Cross Stitch Scarf.

Knitted Cross Stitch Scarf 09-30-20 01

If I ever get back to vending my knitwear, I’m pretty certain this one will sell. I also think the other “meh” scarf will sell too. Suffice it to say, I will have a lot of inventory at my first post-COVID craft show.

5 comments on “I Am Perplexed

  1. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder? I like both scarves, especially the second. Not meh, but rather nice as we Brits say!

  2. Perhaps I need to rethink “meh”.

    OK, do-over time. How about MEH= mindless, enjoyable, handcrafting.

    Perhaps it should be a new collection of patterns…

  3. I like these scarves ! It all depends on how you wear it ! Nice hand made work, keep knitting. The first on is perfect in this time of the year in Canada, with all its colors…

  4. The meh scarves are the perfect scarves to wear when your outfit is bold and bright. If I was wearing a turquoise coat, the 1st meh scarf would be perfect!

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