Why Be Stingy?
Lately, I’ve been noticing that I’be been withholding niceties from people for little or no reason. Then I asked myself, “Why be stingy.”
Why Be Stingy – Especially With Something That is Plentiful?
Years ago when I was first writing this blog, I was often mean-spirited about others. I’d harshly critique designers. Or other knitters on knitting forums. And yarn stores and companies as well. A knitter-friend asked me at the time, “Why can’t you just be nice?”
Honestly, I was getting a lot of attention and response to blog posts by being mean. So I continued it. But I wish I could have heard my friend’s question and changed.
Fast-forward to today. When we’re out biking, I will usually wave to passers-by and say “good morning.” There is a woman who we see often on our rides. We don’t know her except by sight. I’d gotten it in my head that she was unfriendly. She never waved back. Or greeted us. Kept her head down and ignored us. As a way to punish this allegedly unfriendly community member, I snubbed her each time we’d pass her.
But then it occurred to me. Why be stingy with something as abundant as a smile. It costs me nothing. If it has no effect on her at all, it still doesn’t take anything away from me. And of course there’s this.
I’ve started to look at each “stingy” interaction I have with other people. And just questioning why, I’m able to be a lot more generous with others.
This is probably a lesson most of you already know, but it was an important revelation for me.
I’ve been struggling to get time to knit. But I have started two more hats.
And yes…I start a second hat before I finish the first one. I hate the ribbing section, so I like to get it over with quickly.