I would like to make a possibly daring assertion today. Your resentments are never caused by someone else.

Who Causes Your Resentments?

I’ll go even a little further and note that you should be glad about this fact.

Yes, it’s unthinkable that you’d have a resentment against someone if they hadn’t done anything. So, someone else is almost always involved in a resentment. But they are never the cause. You are.

A while ago, I was working with a kind of life coach. Someone I consider to be incredibly wise. I was describing to him a complaint I was holding against someone. Honestly, it was kind of a stupid, bad customer-service situation that would annoy the shit out of me every time I’d think about it or go back to where it happened. Since I went back there almost once a week, I was annoyed a lot. My friend gave me the best advice. He said that we don’t have the luxury of holding onto resentments, that they will eventually do harm to us.

Strong words and I don’t expect everyone to agree with that last statement. But when I took his words to heart I found that I had to resolve resentments anytime I recognized them in my life. And the more I did, the more I realized that I could always eliminate a resentment without any help from the “offending party.” Letting go of a resentment didn’t require an apology from someone else. It didn’t require me to reconcile or talk things out with the person who wronged me. It simply required that I figure out some way within myself to let go of ill feelings.

And not only did it get easier and easier, it made me realize that the full power of holding onto and letting go of resentments resided within me. No one else. And realizing that, I was grateful for it, because it meant I could resolve any resentments myself.

Here’s my two-cents of advice. If you have a resentment (or many resentments) work on resolving them in some way where you can let them go. And keep doing that every time you notice yourself holding a resentment. Because for me, the less bitter, the better.

Current Crochet

As I started to slowly grow the short-sleeve, crocheted top, I considered that I probably didn’t have enough cotton on the cone to complete it. So, this design will be two-colored and have horizontal stripes.

There is some minor stitch texture that I’m crocheting into this fabric. It’s probably not enough to see clearly, but it’s enough to give the fabric some visual interest and also make it more interesting to make.

At this gauge, progress moves slowly, but I’m enjoying the process.