Do You Know Me - 01-19-24 01

Do You Know Me?

People often act as though they know me. Especially blog readers. When meeting blog readers, I often found myself thinking, “Do you know me?”

How Exactly Do You Know Me?

I blame myself for this kind of unfound familiarity. Often I’ll explain to blog readers that my blog posts aren’t meant to fully expose myself. In fact, quite the opposite. There are some aspects of myself that I purposefully never discuss. But I do write in a way that makes it seem as if I’m completely transparent. So it’s no wonder there are folks who have a misguided idea of who I am.

Back in the early 2000’s, I would often meet up with blog readers. Or people I had met through knitting forums like the KnitList. Inevitably, they would say something like, “You’re much different in-person than I expected.” In fact the most common comment I got when I’d be with Marilyn Roberts (The Knitting Curmudgeon), was, “Marilyn is much nicer in-person and you’re much less nice than your respective on-line personas.” Or something to that extent.

But there are people who have only known me through my on-line presence who have an amazingly accurate idea of who I am. And who I’m not. Barb Brown was one of those people. She was a blog-reader and commenter from the very beginning. Just do a search on this blog for “Barb “ and you’ll see four pages of blog entries where she either comments or is mentioned (or featured!…like for her sock book).

And I think I knew her well too. But I’ll never know for certain.

Barb Brown passed away this past Wednesday. And I can honestly say I lost a good friend. Here is my favorite photo of her.

Peter Jobson and Barb Brown

Here she’s knitting with another long-time knit-friend, Peter (who I’ve met in-person) and one of her beloved grandchildren, Caytlin. A photo of her now knitting with Marilyn and Ted Myatt on some other astral plane is easily conceivable.

I’ve known Barb since before the blog, through the KnitList. She was always an enthusiastic participant in the blog and other on-line forums. To her friends and family, I can only hope that her memory is truly an occasion for joy. And for Barb, may she rest in well-deserved peace.

Current Crochet/Knitting

Crocheting the current Mostly Harmless shawl is slow-going for me.

I’m not a really fast crocheter. And this design is all single crochets into the front loop. Which slows me up even more. But I will prevail.

I also need to take a break every once in a while. So I knit another West Coast Watch Cap out of Kureyon yarn.

Having a variety of these hats around the house give Thaddeus and I options when we go out in the recent frigid weather. This one is probably my favorite so far (colorwise).

8 comments on “Do You Know Me?

  1. So very sorry for your loss. Thank you for the mention of Marilyn Roberts. She and I became close on line friends back in the day.

  2. I believe that anyone’s online presence, including their writings, offers a glimpse into their thoughts and experiences.

    It’s important to note that I can only know what you choose to share about yourself. As you’ve mentioned, blog posts may not fully expose every aspect of a person, and there are intentional gaps. The challenge arises when readers, with the best intentions, interpret these writings and form their impressions.

    In your case, you’ve made it clear that certain aspects of yourself are purposefully left undisclosed. It’s interesting how some individuals, who have only known you through your online presence, can develop surprisingly accurate ideas about who you are. It’s a reminder of the complexity of online interactions and the varied perceptions people may have.

    Ultimately, the question of ‘How exactly do you know me?’ is a nuanced one. Online connections offer insights, but they are not a comprehensive representation of an individual. The recent loss of a good friend like Barb Brown highlights the impact these connections can have on our lives, even when the depth of understanding may vary.

    I’m sorry to hear about Barb’s passing, and it’s evident from your words that she held a special place in your life. If there’s anything you’d like to share or discuss further, I’m sure you’ll write about it in good time.

    1. Thanks Karen…you often express exactly what I was trying to in a blog. Or minimally you take a deeper dive into the topic that I often don’t have the time to do. Love your comment on this.

  3. Sorry for the loss of your friend, we do get attached to our blog writers and look forward to their posts, I am amazed how quickly you produce items,thanks God bless

  4. My condolences for your loss. It’s so hard to lose friends who are a similar vintage to ourselves–out of the “acceptable order of things.”

    As to your main, very interesting and insightful point: I have a fair number of what I call “on-line friends” through various communities. I feel like they are real relationships in their own way, they are just very different. I am fairly picky about them though and try to only interact with people who it seems like I would probably actually like in real life–such as yourself– if we if we did happen to meet. guess almost no one even in real life knows everything about a person, except maybe a spouse or very, very dear friend, so it’s kind of more like being an acquaintance maybe. I think it’s important that you protect yourself and we are all very happy to read just whatever you want to write.

    Onto the knitting: those hats look so awesome as they look like they would really stay down over the ears! I will have to look and see if you have published the pattern.

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