Tell Me I’m Beautiful
Maybe it’s just my personal filter but it seems that the most prevalent emotional issue with most people, is low self-esteem. So tell me I’m beautiful.
What Does It Cost You To Tell Me I’m Beautiful
And be sincere about it!
Years ago I learned a great life-hack. Supportive comments about someone else are free. And incredibly valuable. Most of the people I know could never suffer from more self-esteem. So genuinely finding something good about someone and letting them know has been a useful way for me of making me feel better about myself.
You’d think that would seem somewhat counter-intuitive, but everyone seems to understand it right away. That being supportive of others makes them feel better about themselves.
A couple examples of how I’ve used this life-hack:
- In support groups, I will find one thing that I find valuable in what someone else shares and let them know how valuable it was for me.
- At work (when I was still working), I’d make sure my boss or my boss’s boss knew what amazing work one of my co-workers was doing. It always made both my co-worker and me look amazing.
- Men’s Knitting Retreats – This is the most profound example I’ve seen. Making sure each and every guy who attends knows exactly how amazing I think they are (and I do), has created this incredibly powerful echo-chamber (in a good way). These guys have created one of the most fantastically self-supporting groups of people I have ever been around.
So, my secret (not-so-secret) is out. A rising tide of self-esteem raises all boats.
Tell someone about how they amaze you and see how good you feel.
The feature photo is the most recently finished Chicklet from the Emotional Support Chicken kit I got from Knitting Tree LA.
I’ve also finished all the knitting for the next one as well.
Still need to sew her up. And I hope you’re not tiring of this cool little pattern. I still have five more to make!