What Are Your Pronouns - International Pronouns Day

What Are Your Pronouns?

It’s a simple question with sometimes very complex implications. What are you pronouns? I’m “he, him, his”.

Why Ask?

First of all, it’s International Pronouns Day. But also, by asking someone their pronouns, it allows form them to tell you how they identify. It also give you the opportunity to show them respect and caring about who they are.

Many of us in the gender-non-conforming world have fought long and hard for self-determination. Pronoun declaration allows for that to some extent.

Honestly, I need as much practice as I can in using self-declared pronouns. I was schooled for years that “they,” “them,” and “their” are only to be used for plural entities. So there’s that. I’ve been practicing using the singular “they/them/their” when discussing someone who I don’t know well enough to use other pronouns. It sounded awful at first, but I’m learning.

I have also accidentally misgendered people. So practicing using the pronouns declared by someone is good practice.

It also reminds me that I’m still a work-in-progress. That I still have an infinite amount of things about which I can learn. I’m a growing, adaptable individual. Also, I’m receptive to feedback and change. Those are characteristics about which I am proud.

Feel free to comment with how you’d prefer to be addressed.

Current Knitting

If the speed with which I finished this pair of socks is any indication, I knit faster on HiyaHiya 9″ circulars.

HiyaHiya 9inch Circular Sock Knitting 10-20-21 04

HiyaHiya 9inch Circular Sock Knitting 10-20-21 03

HiyaHiya 9inch Circular Sock Knitting 10-20-21 01

The 1×1 rib is still a pain, but the plain stockinette goes faster and keeps a uniform gauge. I think I’ll stick with these 9″ needles!

I also added one color row to the Interlocking Crochet Scarf.

Interlocking Cross Stitch Scarf 10-20-21 01

Interlocking Cross Stitch Scarf 10-20-21 02

I’m loving how bright this scarf is turning out so far. We’ll see how it progresses!


3 comments on “What Are Your Pronouns?

  1. I am she/her and cis—gendered and fairly curvy so While I am always trying to do my best to respect folks’ pronouns it has always been on them to point it out to me and I never think to say it. I need to start asking! I like they and am down with folks using they for me as well. The thing that helped me get over that old school “they is for plural” was an article I read that pointed out that we use “you” for both plural and singular. I live they. My whole life I have been waiting for this for folks I don’t know well and BABIES. “Oh, they are so alert!” Or “Oh, look at their tiny hands!” Then if the parent is particular, they can choose to say “yes, She is just perfect.” But I am never “wrong.”

    1. Oh yes, thank you LauraRose to point out that it’s because in english you mean singular and plural, I didn’t notice that, it was so strange for a french people, as we have “tu” for singular, and “vous” for plural or as a polite pronon.

  2. Hello Joe,
    I wonder if here in France, “they, their, them”, could be used, speaking to a single people. Maybe a source of misunderstanding. Some use a mix between “il” and “elle” : iel. I commonly use “il ou elle” (He or she) when I don’t know about someone, as we have only male and female pronouns. I practice the international language Esperanto since a while, and in this international community the LGBTQ groups are strong and rich of cultural diversity. The discussions about pronouns still occurs : we have li (he), ŝi (she), ĝi (for non determined gender). Theorically we can say “ĝi” for a baby, but now people are shoked, and want to use it only for animals and non living things. In fact “ĝi” went to mean like “it” (clearly it’s an anglicism on my opinion), while it’s really not it’s signification.
    As a therapist, before a seance if I have a doubt I want to ask people how they determine themselves. Especially in Esperanto, as the discussion is not closed about pronouns. I’m very free with how people want to be addressed.

    It’s an other thing with my own pronouns. I’m a woman, but with a male characteristic : a very discrete beard wich I always wanted to hide. Since I went conscious that maybe in a certain way I’m more male than I thought, it went very much easier to accept. It’s not enough to feel concerned if someone use a male pronoun, speaking about me. If I meet someone who want to addressed me as a man or a neutral gender, maybe this people has to explain at first why, and well, I’ll adapt myself, as an existencial experience, a progression in the life. One exists mainly in the eyes of other people, maybe.

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